'It’s been 10 years and I still can’t seem to get over my crush'

(PHOTO: Getty Images/Gallo Images)
(PHOTO: Getty Images/Gallo Images)

“My forever crush”


I’m 20 and I’ve had a crush on this boy for 10 years. He’s known about it for five years, but he still hasn’t asked me out. I can’t go out with anyone else because I love him so much, even though he doesn’t even talk to me. A part of me wants to move on and start going out with other boys but I can’t because he’s the only person I want to be with. I’m not familiar with these dating things as I’ve never done it. What can I do?


You’ve stated yourself that he doesn’t even know you exist, so I have to wonder why you would put your life on hold for someone who clearly isn’t interested in having a relationship. You can’t keep on denying yourself the chance of finding someone because you’re holding on to hope that he’ll one day look your way and ask you out. If he was even the slightest bit interested in you, he would’ve asked you out by now.

You aren’t familiar with dating because you’re not giving yourself a chance to experience what it feels like. What you’ve described here sounds like an obsession and it can easily get out of hand if it isn’t controlled. You’re still young so do yourself a favour and go on a date with someone who is interested in you. Stop wasting your precious time on a guy who’s just not worth it. Good luck.

WomensHealth also suggests that it is important to do a self-introspection in an attempt to deal with what you are facing and inevitably learn to realize your self-worth. More so it recommends that you distract yourself with things that make you happy simply because according to licensed clinical psychologist Brandy Engler, “Obsessing and ruminating are just ways to get stuck in your head.”

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