My girlfriend’s friend is trying to destroy my relationship – what do I do?



My girlfriend’s best friend doesn’t like me and I think she’s trying to destroy our relationship. I’m nice to her but I think she’s jealous and nothing I say makes any difference.

I’ve tried talking to my girlfriend about it but she says I’m imagining things. I understand that she wants to be supportive of her friend, but I think she doesn’t know her as well as she thinks she does. What should I do?


It seems your girlfriend’s reaction to this has made you ask yourself if what you’re seeing is real or if you’re just being paranoid. And as long as your girlfriend hasn’t seen any evidence of what you’re saying about her friend, she won’t support you in this.

You need to be careful about going out of your way to prove what you’re saying is true. Doing that might end up causing conflict and could permanently damage your relationship. Her best friend might have reasons for not liking you, and there’s not much you can do about that.

Ask your girlfriend to give you the benefit of the doubt for the sake of your relationship. Simply ask her to be cautious of her friend. If she really values your relationship she will take this to heart. Then just let it be and love your woman. Don’t let this spoil your relationship.

Truelove suggests that all information about your partner to friends should not be discussed because, friends can use information to destroy you personally, your partner or your relationship as a whole. Some things should be kept between you and your partner, unless if it’s a case of abuse.

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