He may seem to have it all- he is a good man, has a stable job and your chemistry is magnetic.But if you are dreaming of a lifetime commitment, there’s so much more you need to know about him – and he needs to know about you – to ensure relatively smooth sailing until death do you part.
“We see too many couples rushing into marriage before they are ready and without a decent understanding of the person they’re getting married to,” says Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor from Midrand.She says the rush may be because people feel pressured by parents who want grandkids, or they are affected by the social pressure to marry when their friends do.
But because you’re making a commitment to spend the rest of your life with this person, it’s worth investing some time and effort to get to know them before tying the knot. “It’s dangerous to get married during the honeymoon stage of your love life,” says Nomonde Precious Stamper, a social work practitioner at Eyam Consultancy in Grahamstown.
