Toxic parents, screaming kids and special anniversaries: readers share their eye-opening lockdown experiences

Stressed woman (PHOTO: Getty Images)
Stressed woman (PHOTO: Getty Images)

Self-isolation and lockdown have been extremely necessary to curb the spread of the deadly coronavirus.

However, for many who have had to stay at home with their families and children without the distraction of work, it has been an eye-opening experience.

Read more: Domestic violence is on the rise due to lockdown, here’s what you can do if you’re being abused

We asked a few of our readers to share their experiences with us, from children making it impossible to work from home to people eating every 2 minutes and neighbours constantly asking for food items, this lockdown has been quite the challenge. 

Difuro Nkadimeng realised that living at home with her family as an adult no longer works for her, she wrote: “I'm drowning in deep thoughts. I just realised how I need to find myself a home. At this age I should be minding my own business at my place. So, my resolution after this is saving towards building a house.”

Philisiwe Motaung and her partner have a little daughter, and she playfully complained about how often the little girl poops. “Yesterday she pooped in the bathtub, today she did it on the floor,” she wrote.

Ato Junior says her older sister is driving her crazy by wanting to send her to the shops to buy Wi-Fi bundles instead of just doing it online. “She is making me angry because she is too old to behave like this,” she wrote.

Conny Mogwane says the constant eating has gone out of control, and she might have a solution for the financial effect of it all: “Government must buy groceries for all of us, except the big three [Nicky] Oppenheimer, [Patrice] Motsepe and [Johann] Rupert.” These individuals and their families each donated R1 billion to help combat Covid-19.

While others are experiencing fallouts with their families, CK Luno and Fundi celebrated their first anniversary and are enjoying every minute together.

Mother Tembisa Mamgema Maqwati is struggling. “Lockdown with my autistic son, tjo it's a mission,” she wrote.

A reader who wished to remain anonymous said: “This lockdown is the [worst] time of my life. It's only been 5 days but things are falling apart at home. My mom is a toxic human being who behaves like a teenager. She and my dad are going through a divorce but instead of her going for counselling, she is busy with other relationships. You can tell that she is hurt by the divorce, but she is handling it the wrong way. 

“She has symptoms of being depressed, she is moody and always angry. One minute she's happy, the next she is sad. Her energy is rubbing [off] on us and it's getting difficult. Another thing is that she shows favouritism to us and it makes us fight.

“Whenever we get along with my siblings, it's like annoying to her. She always finds a way to make fights. When we try to solve our issues, she takes sides and [fuels] the fire. Yesterday my sister left, she was my pillar of strength. When she's around at least I know I have someone to talk to get my mind off my mother’s behaviour and tantrums. I'm pregnant and due soon [so] I try not to stress [but] it's hard and draining,” she wrote.

On the other side of lockdown, police minister Bheki Cele says police have seen an increase in calls related to gender based violence issues during the first week of the 21-day lockdown.