“I am a 38-year-old woman. I was married for five years and we divorced two years ago. After the divorce my ex came back and said he still loves our three children and me. I welcomed him back into our lives since he is the father of my children. However, he has not changed at all and still dates other women, while claiming that he is the father in my family. Worst of all is that I’m hiding the fact that he has HIV and I know he is spreading the virus to innocent young ladies. I am hurt and confused.” – Ntswaki, KwaZulu-Natal
You made a big mistake when you took him back. Being the father of your children does not mean he should be with you. It sounds as if his womanising was the main reason for the divorce. Men like that never change. Why do you allow yourself to be used? And what will happen when he infects you with HIV? Put your children first and leave this man. He is not worth it. If he really loved you, he would not date other women. This man is using you and he is being spiteful to other women. I suggest that you consult the Aids information hotline on 011 725 6710 for advice on how to handle his HIV status and his idea of spreading it.