Anonymous from Umlazi writes:
I’m a 36-year-old married man. My problem is that my wife often wants me to swallow every time I suck her when we make love. However, I always spit out on a towel as I’m scared I’ll get sick if I swallow. I trust her but I just won’t do it. She has told me how she feels about what I do and I promised to stop but I can’t. Is my behaviour common?
Dr Eve responds:
Women are often self-conscious about their smells and tastes, so it must be hurtful
to your wife when you spit on a towel. Of course, you are allowed sexual preferences: you are entitled to refuse oral sex if you do not enjoy doing it. But find a kinder way to let your wife know how you feel, other than your towel method.