Anonymous from Port Elizabeth
For seven months in our relationship, my girlfriend and I didn’t engage in sex. But one
day, she slept over at my place and we ended up having sex. After that things started going sour. We started fighting and broke up about four times. I think that she has used muthi
on me because I go back to her every time we break up. She has now started being serious about us but I don’t want her anymore. She has dropped out of school and I don’t think she will be a good mother to my kids. Besides, I have fallen for someone else.
Sis Naledi responds:
The moment you shift responsibility to muthi, you will lose control of your reaction to the problem. The fact is that you betrayed somebody who has kept herself and not rushed into sleeping with you until she established trust. Now that she did, you start seeing faults in her because you have another person to compare her with. Be careful not to do that in life as you may not know the sincerity of the other girl who looks perfect to you.