Anonymous from Mahikng writes:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years. He has always been there for me all these years and we have a child together. Our problems started when he cheated on me
and impregnated another woman. They now have a child together. I forgave him because I love him. But I’m still struggling to come to terms with the fact that he cheated on me. I always cry or shout at him.
Sis Naledi responds:
You may think that you forgave him but your emotions say something else. This man betrayed you deeply and you still found a way to continue in a relationship with him. I hope you are not with him out of fear that you will be alone. Get professional help to deal with your emotions first. Then ask him if he’s willing to go for couples’ counselling to restore the trust in your relationship. Forgiveness runs deeper than just saying sorry and moving on. A lot needs to be worked through emotionally to get to complete forgiveness.