“I have a problem that I have been quiet about for a long time. I am a 22-year-old woman and I’ve been sleeping with my father since I was 16. Whenever I have a new boyfriend, he gets cross and tells me that I am his and he is not willing to share me with anyone. I think deep down I enjoy sleeping with him, but I know it will hurt my mother if she finds out. What can I do? I'm so used to making love to him.” – Deborah Move! Expert advice
Your letter is sure to get people questioning and talking. We all know that having any form of sex with a member of one’s own family is illegal and very, very harmful. It is called incest. Your letter gives a different side to this very serious situation. You do not say anything negative about your situation except you do mention your father’s jealousy.
This man is your father and a father has no right to have sex with his daughter, even if you want it and enjoy it. You are his child and you have the right to be protected by him, not sexually violated by the person you are supposed to trust the most in the world.
You are a grown woman who loves sex, so I can understand that you enjoy the sex with your father – after all, it’s sex with someone you love – but this is in not the way it should be. You don’t even know how much trouble you are in. Please, Deborah, be brave and phone Childline and speak to a counsellor. You have to get out of this terrible situation for your sake as well as the sake of the rest of your family.