I think he is having an affair


“My husband and I have been married for a long time, and I think he is having an affair. He has been receiving late-night calls and when I ask him about the calls, he says he does not know where they come from. I traced the calls and found out that the number belongs to a married woman. I love my husband very much and I don’t want to divorce him, but I want him to stop cheating me. Can you please help me get my husband and the father of my children back? This situation is affecting the children.” – Mica, Polokwane   Move! Expert advice

This is very disturbing and so common in marriages these days. It looks as if your husband is having an affair and this is why he receives late-night calls. I also strongly believe that he is probably lying to the other woman. It is very common for married men to tell lies about “not being married”, ”sleeping in a separate room to my wife”, ”staying with her for the sake of the children”, and so on. A married woman should not make late-night calls to a man she knows is married. Young women who are looking for a “sugar daddy” often make late-night calls – they are very arrogant and lack respect.

I do understand that you traced that call because you feel frustrated; however, what you did is wrong. Telephone calls are personal and private, and you should respect that, in the same way that your husband should treat your calls as private.

You say you are still love your husband and are not prepared to divorce him. Let me tell you, sister, this is going to be your daily bread and you need to accept this situation if you are not ready to divorce him.

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