“My friend and I were discussing sexual relationships. I told her I have a problem with my man because whenever we make love, I feel as if he is not satisfied. He always looks away and will not talk to me. My friend advised me to squeeze my buttocks when making love because this helps my vagina to be a little tighter. Is this the right thing to do?”
– Rose, Lusikisiki
Dr Eve says
There is no “right” or “wrong” sexual activity. Every touch, caress, look and lick is wonderful if done between adults who agree to it. However, sexual play can be made more enjoyable when people talk about what they want and how they are feeling.
Even if you tighten your vagina, you will never know whether this pleases your man if he is silent. You will be more satisfied if he is more intimate with you, if he gazes into your eyes and talks sexy or romantically to you. Let him know that you love to hear his voice and his desires while you are making love. Remember, each one of us is responsible for making our sexual play great. You can do exercises every day to tighten your vaginal muscles, which will make your vagina tighter over time.
Squeeze the muscles of your vagina and hold the squeeze for a few seconds. Repeat this 10 times twice a day. You will never know what your man wants unless he talks to you. It is his responsibility to tell you want he desires and it is more important to get him to share his heart with you, so start talking.