“My boyfriend and I separated because he was cheating on me. I met another guy by chance at our library and he has been very kind to me. I know that I don’t love him as I loved my previous boyfriend. When we make love, I switch off and think about my former lover. Whenever he kisses me, I feel that I’m going to throw up because of his wet lips. Please tell me if I will be able to love him without thinking about my ex-lover.” – Shosho
Dr Eve says
Your body is telling you what your heart knows: you are not yet ready to be involved or sexual with a new person. Get out, girl, and right now. I know that you need kindness, but this can come from friends and family. I know you want to feel desired by a man now, because your old boyfriend cheated on you. So flirt a lot, but go home alone. Of course, you are still in love with your ex. Allow yourself to be sad and feel sorry about losing him, but you have to be on your own. Another man cannot and should not be used to heal you. If you feel horny for sex, masturbate. Do not insult yourself or this kind man by forcing yourself to enjoy him.