I’m 20 and my boyfriend is 28. He has a son of nine. Everything is fine except that he doesn’t want another child. I’m three months’ pregnant, and I don’t know whether or not to keep the baby. He knows I’m pregnant but hasn’t said how he feels. When he’s drunk, he’ll say he wants me to keep the baby, so that I can be a stay-at-home mom, but when we are withhis friends, he’ll say babies bring bad luck to relationships. I would like to keep this baby but am afraid of having to raise the child on my own. Please help.
In love and confused, KZN
Move! Expert advice
Mrs.Hlengiwe Gcumisa, social worker at the Family and Marriage Association of South Africa says: “Having a child is a big decision and both of you need to be ready emotionally, physically and psychologically. The baby needs an environment that is welcoming, and it will be problematic if he doesn’t want the baby. This will also be harmful to the child later on in life. Speak to your boyfriend about this, and encourage him to speak about his feelings. Raising a child is a huge responsibility, so you will need support, and the baby needs to have a relationship with his father.”