My boyfriend refuses to use condom


“I have lived with my boyfriend of three years. I have had STIs recently and my boyfriend refuses to wear protection. I don't know what to do because when I tell him about the infections he says it is not him, maybe it is me. I love him, but I feel my life is at risk because I think he is busy with other women when I'm not around. Sometimes yellow smelly jelly-like fluid comes out of my vagina. I'm too embarrassed to go time and again to the clinic.” – Confused   Move! Expert advice

I have one word to say to a man who does not take responsibility for protection and who in addition blames you for infections: goodbye! You must dump this man, honey. His man is destroying your health, your self-respect and your worth as a woman.

STIs come from having sex with an infected person – you can’t get them on your own. He is probably infected and just keeps passing the infections on to you. It is good that you keep going to the clinic for treatment. You will get well only when he is also treated for the infection, wears protection when he is with you or else you no longer have sex with him.

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