PinkyGirl on leaving her IT job after being bullied by other women: “Some people used to call me Bonang’s handbag”

Pinky Girl PHOTO: Gallo/Getty Images
Pinky Girl PHOTO: Gallo/Getty Images

Two hours before meeting us, she explains breathlessly, she received notifications on her phone that someone had fraudulently taken R6 000 from her bank account.

“I am so stressed, you have no idea. This person started with R100, then R3 000 and another R3 000. I had to call the bank now and block my card.” Every time her phone beeps, she jolts. The thought of someone helping themselves to her bank account sends shivers down her spine.

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“I am very careful with money and I work hard for it,” PinkyGirl tells DRUM.

“For someone to just come and take what’s mine is hurtful.” It’s the first time she’s a victim of fraud, but it has happened to her cousin Bonang Matheba. “Yoh wena. It was worse for her. The person withdrew around R75 000 from Bonang’s account. So I was lucky.”

After a strong cup of coffee and a puff of her cigarette, PinkyGirl is back to her bubbly self and ready to chat about her new-found love for DJing. Her face lights up as she talks about her latest journey.

“Wena, I am so excited I have finally found what I love, and my career is getting a sense of direction,” she says. When she first appeared on Being Bonang, fans questioned what she did for a living. PinkyGirl held down a nine-to-five job at an IT company for seven years before resigning last year.

“I quit when my colleagues realised I was related to Bonang,” she says. “Some started acting awkward. They would even say, ‘Your cousin is rich, why doesn’t she give you money and you can quit your job? “I’m a grown woman. Yes, Bonang pays for some things, but I can’t ask her for money all the time.”

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Her female colleagues, especially, gave her a hard time. “You know, women sometimes like to bash each other,” PinkyGirl (31) says. “Some people used to call me Bonang’s handbag because I was always with her. They’d insult me, saying all I do is hang around her and do nothing.” She has no qualms about quitting her job but for six months she had no direction. “I was bored. I’d run errands during the day, go to parties at night and just be on my phone,” she says. “I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my career.

Then the invitations started rolling in. “I was at home doing nothing, not working. And then I started making appearances at gigs to make money. All I did was attend events and make guest appearances at parties – that’s how I made a living. “It was a bit too much,” she admits. “I went for the money, but I don’t find satisfaction in being paid to chill, drink and show my face at parties.”

Now, PinkyGirl has found purpose and is pursuing DJing.

“I’ve been practising so hard on my DJing skills, and because I’m a technical person, I picked up a lot in the first week.” She’s being mentored by DJ Mix. “I grew up seeing him in Pretoria and he was one of the best DJs. He knows I’ve always wanted to be a DJ but I never really made time for it. “He approached me a few months back offering to teach me. I was bored at home because we hadn’t started shooting the third season of Being Bonang, so I took the opportunity.”

 In between shooting scenes for the reality TV show, PinkyGirl has been honing her new skills at Real Record in Pretoria. The budding DJ has already started collecting music and preparing her sets. “I love very mellow House music and songs that people can sing along to. I haven’t yet played at clubs, but I’ve started taking bookings,” she says beaming.

She loves starring in Being Bonang, but the reality starlet wants to carve her own path.

“I don’t want to put myself under pressure with this whole fame thing and let it get to my head. But I won’t lie, being her cousin comes with a lot of pressure. “People expect me to behave like her, be loud, bubbly and always look stylish,” PinkyGirl says. “But I am chilled, I’m a Pretoria kasi girl. I am simple and down to earth. I can chill on an electric box in the township. “I can’t put myself under pressure to try and be like my cousin. She’s not my friend, she is my blood. I can’t compare myself to her.”

She’s learnt a thing or two from Queen B and plans to put it to use to blaze her own trail. “Bonang helped me to get my foot in the game by allowing me to be on her show.”

She also wants to host women empowerment conferences and has plans to launch a beauty range next year. She is using her reality show fame as a steppingstone for bigger things but two years after first appearing in Being Bonang she’s still coming to terms with her popularity. “I’m such a simple girl that I sometimes go out without makeup on and people want to take pictures,” PinkyGirl says.

“But I chose this life, so I must live it well.” And live it well she does. One of the perks of being Bonang’s beloved cousin is accompanying her on international trips. “My first trip was Paris and I loved it,” she says. “New York was too much, it’s too busy, there’s too much noise and the smell isn’t nice. I don’t like Dubai, it’s too glam, but I love Lagos in Nigeria.”

She’s an only child but considers Bonang (32) a big sister. Their other cousins sometimes get jealous of her travels with “Moghel” but “we grew up being the only girl cousins back then, so we did everything together”. They’re thick as thieves yet fight like cat and dog. “It’s normal. But we don’t argue for too long,” PinkyGirl says. “I give her space when she goes crazy. I just keep quiet because I know she’s dramatic.”

PinkyGirl’s parents, mom Pertunia and dad Phinius Kesebone Mekgwe, both teachers, support her new career as a celebrity. “They’ve seen how far one can go through my cousin and they believe I can also achieve whatever I set my mind to,” she says.

“So I work hard, I still help at home because I want my parents to be happy and I want to make them proud.” She’s hitting her stride but she’s not winning in the dating game. “I’m afraid of dating a fan. I just want a down-to-earth guy who doesn’t take fame too seriously,” PinkyGirl says.

“The guys I meet are fans. And even some exes who have seen me on TV now want to come back. No ways.”

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