"I allowed myself to be taken advantaged so that I could be accepted"

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HIV Positive woman.
HIV Positive woman.
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It was eight years ago that I was diagnosed with HIV. Receiving this news came as a complete shock to me. Back then I was told that the only people who are infected with HIV are people who sleep around with every Tom, Dick and Harry in town. Of course, I know better now. But there I was, at just 17 years old, with no boyfriend. No sleeping around. My priorities were my books, school, family, and friends and passionately preaching the gospel. How could this be happening to me?


I told myself repeatedly that I must accept my status. So, I started disclosing it to those who I trusted and were close to me. Some of them believed me and some did not. And along my journey, to every guy who said ‘I love you’ I told them that I am HIV positive.  Some would reject me; some wouldn’t believe me. Still, life went on. In 2012, I fell pregnant with my daughter and started treatment.           

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