Bra Mo's blog: Thinking of having a one night stand? Read this before you do:


How many times have you heard, “I had only just her or him and then we went to the toilets and got it on.”

One - night stand requires major guts and confidence. They are a fire-cracker of sexuality: short, explosive, but often leaving a lasting memory of either greatness or regret.

However, before you rush to enjoy your moment of adventure, beware of the dangers and complications that come with having sex with someone you don’t know.

One-night stands always centre on attachment. Either you or the person you slept with will want another session. If you don’t want to find yourself in this dire predicament follow my tips:

Never do it at your place: If you are going to indulge on the dark-side, your place is the worst location to do it. What do you say to each other afterwards? “Thanks for the cookie, you will find yourself home.”On top of that, when you do it at your place, she would have to contend with your smelly socks and dirty underwear. It is preferable to either do it at the common areas; tree, corner of a club, your friend’s bedroom, toilet or her place.

Condomise. Condomise. Condomise: You don’t know her, she doesn’t know you. The least you both can do is respect each other and insist on protection. We all know a friend who has made the terrible and idiotic decision of drilling without any hardware which resulted in fatal results. And when you done, make sure that you get tested. Condoms are not 100% safe.

Be a gentleman: a one-night stand tends to inflate a guy’s ego way faster than a penis pump. You might not see her again, but don’t break ties in a bad way.  Treat her as a human; actually treat her way better than that, because she has just shared a part of herself with you.

Only do it once: Yes, your girlfriend of six years dumped you and you needed to feel like a man. Cool. Once you have taken it out of your system, don’t go back and indulge in the act. When men leave a serious relationship, the aftermath usually materializes into a series of one-night stands. There’s a reason for this: couples seek intimacy while strangers seek pleasure. The difference is vast, so be aware when you engage in these short escapades.

Ultimately you only live once; be careful. The spontaneity of one-night stands can breed carelessness. Don’t ruin your experience by making stupid, but preventable mistakes.

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