Does size matter?


By Vida Li-Sik 

Can the size of a man’s manhood affect a couple’s relationship? And what should you do if it does?

Penis size is often not the real problem. “Sexual fulfilment is about the emotional connection and understanding two people share with each other. For a woman, foreplay and being properly aroused has very little to do with the size of a man’s penis, and more to do with his understanding of what it takes to pleasure her,” says Brian Blem, a counselling psychologist based in Johannesburg.

He says every couple experiences issues within a relationship. “However, when the issue relates to a physical characteristic, such as penis size, then this is a far more serious and difficult matter to resolve as there’s not a great deal a person can do to change their physical attributes.

“If you don’t feel safe expressing yourself to your partner, then it may be time to seek help through a couple’s counsellor, so you and your partner can learn how to communicate in a way that you are free to open up, grow up and grow closer,” he adds.

Can you change your penis size?

“Penis enlargement is not a proven, safe or advisable route to take, which leaves affected men in a very difficult position,” Brian adds.

Life and sex coach Jade Zwane adds, “Most men ask me how to make their penises bigger. I recommend a girth extender, which can be bought at most adult stores.”

Get help: Contact Men’s Clinic International on 0860-362-867 or visit

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