Sis Dolly: We all have a Place and Space in the World


I am not youand you are not me. What you bring to the world will differ from what I bring. In that place of our differences may lie some similarities, and above all, our individual strengths are what make for the workings of relationships, businesses, governments, all of it.   I am increasingly aware of the manner in which we speak to and deal with each other as human beings.  I see the violence and disregard for human life and individualsand I see this reflected in the way we deal with each other on social media platforms. And I wonder if the social media manifestation of a mean spirit is as a result of our society which has an increasing disregard for human life or vice versa.

It is as though we choose to deflect difference of others. We perceive a disagreement of opinion as a personal assault. We are standing with our fists clenched, protecting our faces in the pose of a boxer and ready to defend our territory, ready to strike as we lurk in the shadows of our own self prescribed defensiveness. The thing is that, more often than not, it is such false territory. This is a shared world. We all have a space and a place. We need to be more accepting of the differences we bring to the world. We need to open up to the possibility that it is always about give and take.  When you are giving of yourself you need to be willing to receive of another. When you choose to respond by taking over in the belief that the other “can't do”, then you have choose  to be open to being overburdened and then you need to know when to give back what is not yours . And if you are “taking on being right” then you need to be willing to "give of being wrong". Instead, we always seem determined to be the one who is right, whose opinion matters more than that of another person, whose way is the only way. We presume thatdisagreement is an insult. We are all driven by different desires, dreams, goals, visions, values. And that is what makes the world so beautifully diverse! I recently said “the more we sit in expectation of the other being as we would like them to be, the more we are not in acceptance of who they are”.  And sometimes I think it is also because we are not accepting who we are as individuals and so we project that self loathing and insecurity onto others. None of us is perfectand within the place of our flaws, there is a place of compromise, acceptance and the possibility of endless personal power that does not need to manifest as power over another.  

 Live in and through your expectations of your own greatness and find your space and place in the world with compassion.

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