Woman who had sex tape leaked: ‘I wished I could just disappear’


It happened when I was still in high school. One morning I went to school and got the impression that everyone was talking about me.

Prior to that morning, I had broken up with my then boyfriend and he decided to circulate a video of us having sex. The most disturbing thing is that the video was made without my knowledge. On that day, I wished I could just disappear.

I was felt hurt, betrayed and so humiliated.


The principal suspended my ex-boyfriend and his cellphone was confiscated. That’s when I realised just how crazy he was. In his phone, there were multiple video of us having sex.

I thank God that this happened during the time when social media was not as popular as it is now. But it was hurtful and embarrassing to get stares from teachers, fellow pupils, neighbours and people I knew.


It hurt me that people did not see me as a victim but as a loose girl. Despite the negative remarks people made about me, there were a few other people who supported me. It’s because of these people that I was able to put the incident behind me.

Although some people still label me as a “loose girl”, I’m getting stronger by the day. I’m not going to let an ex-boyfriend who didn’t know what he was doing to stop me from living my life. I can only hope that other girls learn from this incident and protect their reputations at all costs.

* Not her real name

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