My brother’s new wife is horrible, and I don’t know how to handle this. We see them most weekends but it’s hard to get along with her. My mom and other brother feel the same.
She’s always showing off and is rude to my mom, telling her she’s too old to understand anything. We all love my brother and know it’s difficult for him, but this is not right. What can we do?
It’s sad when family members don’t get along, especially when it’s a daughter-in-law and her in-laws. This kind of situation puts a lot of strain on the husband. Your brother’s wife shouldn’t act in a way that will force her husband to choose between her and his mother. Both play different roles in his life. Both are important to him.
Your brother can’t cut himself in two to make them both happy. If your sister-in-law really loves her husband, she’ll try to get along with his mother. Your brother loves them and should be able to mediate. If he can’t, I suggest he seek the assistance of a family counsellor. They’ll then all discuss this challenge in a civil manner and be guided on how to rectify it.
For the time being, maybe you should stay away from your brother and his wife because seeing them every weekend will cause more conflict. He can contact Family Life Centre on 011-788-4784 to make an appointment to see a family counsellor.