I’m worried about my wife-to-be. She involves her brother in our decisions too much. Most of the time when we make decisions about her or about us, she confirms them with her brother, which I find insulting. It’s like she doesn’t trust me. It also makes me feel like she doesn’t have a backbone. How can we make decisions without involving her brother?
Sis Dolly answers
It’s always good to remember that family members are there to give support to couples but they shouldn’t be too involved in their lives. Your fiancée needs to understand that this is your life and whatever decisions you make have to suit you as a couple – they are about the kind of life you want to live together.
Whatever you agree on, if you see it as good for you but her brother doesn’t, then he must let it go. She also must learn that you are her husband-to-be and if she doesn’t have faith in your abilities as a man, it’s going to cause chaos in your marriage.
If she continues to act as if she doesn’t believe in your ability to make good decisions, I suggest you go to a marriage counsellor to resolve this issue. Pre-marriage counselling is often a good idea for couples and it sounds like it will benefit you.