Dear Sis Dolly
I’m a 31-year-old guy and I’ve had a few girlfriends but no one really serious. Now I’ve met someone I like very much and I took her to meet my family.
They were very rude to her and made it clear they didn’t think she’d be good for me. My mom said she preferred the last girl. But I don’t understand it – this girl is not as pretty as the last one but she is kind and caring. How can I make things right?
Sis Dolly answers
What you’re currently experiencing is one of the reasons why it’s advisable to not introduce your partner to family members too early in your courtship.
Allowing them to get to know each other can cause challenges when you break up and there may be problems like this when you introduce someone else to your family. There’s always the chance your family will compare your new partner to the last one and make their feelings known.
That said, your family needs to understand that this is about you and not them. You should choose a girlfriend based on the kind of person you’re comfortable with and who makes you happy. Whatever this girl’s character is like, you’re the one who must deal with what that brings.
Make this clear to your family and ask them not to meddle in your relationships. Your family should be supporting the choice you make, not making it for you.