A psychologist’s advice on what to tell your child this Father’s Day if they have an absent dad

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Its okay for children to be sad that their fathers are not in their lives.
Its okay for children to be sad that their fathers are not in their lives.
Guy Bubb

The family portrait looks different for different children.

Some put crayon to paper, sketching Father's Day cards with stickmen drawings of just Daddy and his kids, others sketch two dads and the kid/s, while for others, there's no Daddy at all in the picture – just two moms, or Ma and Aunty/Granny, or just Mom and the kid/s.

If you're a single mom estranged from a partner who is absent from their kids' lives, Father's Day may be triggering for you and the children. But, if there's a little sadness in your home this Sunday, acknowledge the feeling, according to psychologist Dr Joshua Ndlela, who says there is nothing wrong with kids feeling hurt by not having present fathers in their lives.

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