Is your sex life getting boring? Here are 7 ways to spice things up in the bedroom

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Chase boredom out
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exploring some of these
unconventional ideas.
Chase boredom out of the bedroom by exploring some of these unconventional ideas.
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Sexual kinks are a great way to liven things up between the sheets with your partner. The team at online sex toys store desir.co.za has put together a list of seven kinks that are fun to try together – at least once!

1 WAM

Getting wet and messy (WAM) involves incorporating food into your sexual escapades.

Many people find food to be quite sensual so it makes sense that it can be incorporated in the bedroom! Edible body paint or simply melted chocolate is a good entry level step into the world of kinky food. You can also try a whipped cream bikini – create a cream bikini bottom and have your partner lick it off. Yum!

2 MIRROR, MIRROR

Have you always liked the idea of seeing yourself and your partner getting it on in the mirror? Many people become aroused at the idea of watching sex play out while making it happen.

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Explore this option by placing free standing mirrors next to your bed the next time you decide to spend the night exploring each other. If you like it, have the mirrors fitted to your cupboard doors. And if you really, really like it, in the future you might even consider having a mirror installed on your bedroom ceiling.

3 BUM PLAY

A pygophilliac is someone aroused by seeing and touching a person’s bum. This includes those who thoroughly enjoy anal sex.

Invest in some massage oils and explore the area you love. You can work your way up to incorporating some sex toys.

4 SENSUAL SOUNDS

This is all about what you like to hear before and during sex. Role playing can give you more opportunity to use different words and fun accents to really make things interesting! 

Either close your eyes or have your partner blindfold you as you listen to their exclamations. Or play the music that gets you most in the mood.

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5 HAIR-RAISING

Do you love the way hair smells and feels? Science has a very good explanation for this. Pheromones, the chemical arousal stimulators that people produce in their skin, are especially prominent in the head area.

Find ways to incorporate your partner’s hair into foreplay, such as washing it or giving or receiving a good scalp massage.

6 TICKLES AND GIGGLES

If being tickled tickles your fancy, explore gently blindfolding your partner and using something like a feather or soft fabric to gently tease their most sensitive areas – collar bones, feet, stomach or inner thighs.

7 WHO ARE YOU AGAIN?

This fits into the fantasy of anonymous sex. Use masks in your roleplaying games and even dress up.

It’s a great way to take you both out of the day-to-day routine.

TIPS TO HELP YOU GET INTO IT

1) As with any new kink, start small and work your way up. This way, you can really take note of your partners feelings about what you’re trying.

2) The perfect experience will involve something both of you are into, even if that experience offers you different things. The goal is always a shared eroticism so that trust can grow.

3) An adult kink is something to acknowledge and share with the person you love. Neither of you are ever going to be happy if you remain silent about the things you enjoy in the bedroom.

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