Meghan’s loving words about Harry an object lesson in ‘how you talk about your partner to others’

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The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have been identified as relationship goals.
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have been identified as relationship goals.
Brenton Geach

Lady Di's son is adored, that's for sure.

Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex, could not love and respect her Prince Harry more, she said recently, and the audience answered "amen" – so to speak.

The Sussexes' adoration for each other is an object lesson in how the way you speak of your partner to others really matters, a relationship expert tells Drum. 

“I could not love and respect him more, and I know that all of you feel the same . . . He is the founder of the Invictus Games and the father to our two little ones, Archie and Lili. Please welcome my incredible husband, Prince Harry the Duke of Sussex,” said Meghan in an introduction that's got fans of the lovebirds all over the world swooning over them.

Seeing two people doting on each other and expressing it loudly is magical to see. It is especially touching when people speak kindly of their partners, because then it trickles down to those around them, so they too know how to treat and speak about them.

The room is filled with thunderous applause as Prince Harry makes his way to the stage following the intro by the former Suits actress.

The heartwarming moment, one of thousands more of the two treating each other with tenderness and kindness, was captured on a video that recently went viral online.

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As he strides toward the mic, looking hopelessly in love and delighted, he is given a standing ovation. Then the couple share a kiss before he says, “thank you, my love” to the mother of his two kids.

“If we uplift our partners and put them in a positive light, then even those around us will do the same," says relationship expert and author Paula Quinsee who believes that you teach people how to treat you and your partner.

This is not only limited to how you talk about your partner in their presence, but also behind their back. What you say in their absence says a lot about how you really feel about them.

“If you are constantly saying negative things about them, then that is how your people will always view your partner.”

Paula says there is a difference between speaking ill of your partner and venting when there is a specific issue you are upset about at a particular time. But even then, she says, one must always be careful.

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“There is nothing wrong with venting from time to time. But watch who you are venting to. You do not want all your dirty laundry out there, so is the person you are venting to someone you can trust? Also, will they be non-biased enough to call you out on your contribution to the problem?

“Your friends and family will always, by default, choose your side. So even when you are fighting with your partner, it is always best to seek help from a professional rather than family and friends.”

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