She’s always been fine as hell, but Meagan Good is positively on fire now.
Going through divorce is one of the most traumatic experiences that anyone can go through and, no doubt, if fans are to read anything into some of the posts Meagan shared on social media soon after she and her husband announced their divorce, the end of her marriage with Pastor DeVon Franklin was heartrending.
They’d been together for nearly a decade, and were the picture of the perfect modern married Christian couple. The Seventh-Day Adventist pastor, Hollywood producer and author seemed fiercely protective of the actress, never shrinking back from clapping back at any disapproving Christians who felt that Meagan’s dress code was just too sexy for a pastor’s wife.
The couple were the toast of Hollywood, featured on magazines and talk shows for their brave decision, which they shared in their book, to remain celibate while they courted until they got married. After meeting on the set of their 2011 film, Jumping the Broom, they got engaged in May 2012 and finally jumped their own broom on 16 June 2012.
On 22 December 2022, DeVon reportedly filed for the divorce from the Harlem star, citing irreconcilable differences, and though they’ve both remained mum for a while, speculation was rife.
Meagan finally broke her silence recently during a Twitter Spaces conversation with xoNecole and the cast of Harlem. Although the 40-year-old actress admitted the divorce process was “the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life”, she’s being stoic about it.
“Throughout life, I’ve always approached relationships as understanding that at some point, they’ll get to the place that they’re going to, and then they would be over,” she said.
“I’ve always had an attitude of like, ‘All right, next chapter. We’ll see what’s next,’ and being okay with that and appreciating what you give to someone and what they give to you and sharing a moment in time and in life that you never get back regardless of how it ends. In my situation right now, it’s a little bit different because I thought that that would be the last time that I would be doing that and that I would be doing this with that person forever.”
She was cut up about the split, but she’s also using this as an experience to glow up – spiritually, mentally, physically and in all ways possible. In her recent appearance on The Real, she didn’t directly talk about the divorce but spoke of growth and healing in the past few months.
“It’s been amazing, like so many transitions. Projects that I prayed for, just health transitions, just taking a moment to really take everything in and get myself, my spirit, my soul ready for 40,” said the actress who turned 40 on 8 August 1981.
The post-divorce glow-up really is a real thing, according to 2009 study carried out by Maguire Family Law in the UK surveying more than 1 000 divorced adults on their wellbeing post-divorce. Of those polled, only 9% said things had gotten worse after divorce while 65% of the divorces said they’d seen improvement in nearly all areas of their life post-breakup.
“This improvement is accredited to what’s known as ‘post traumatic growth’: a positive psychological change experienced as a result of going through a period of adversity,” Marie Claire UK reports in an article featuring podcaster and author Sara Davison, popularly known as the Divorce Coach.
“The personal growth following divorce is enormous – it helps people’s outlook on life, shifts their mindset and puts them into action,” said Sara.
Some call it the post-breakup or post-divorce glow up, others call it the ‘smug divorcée look’, and perhaps rightly so because it seems to apply to women more than men.
“Life ‘over the other side’ can be so good for women that it’s often merry divorcées who attract jealousy from their married friends, rather than the other way around,” says English teacher and writer Charlotte Pearson in her You UK essay on the post-divorce glow.
“Because men benefit more from the ‘protective health effect’ of marriage – in other words, we nag them about drinking and smoking and encourage healthy eating habits – they go into greater decline, and slip into ‘old, unhealthy habits’ (which, ultimately, make them miserable) when the marriage ends.
“Women, on the contrary, view a split as an incentive to become healthier (many report sleeping better once no longer sharing the marital bed, whereas men do not). And emotionally, men feel more alone: they tend not to forge such deep connections with their friends as women do. In short, men thrive more in marriage and women – with our knack for maintaining diverse social networks – do better in divorce.”
Little is known about the whereabouts of DeVon since he announced his social media break to focus on his healing. But healing certainly looks good on that Meagan.
Additional sources: www.marieclaire.co.uk; www.you.co.uk; www.etonline.com