Cape Town - As the spotlight falls on gender-based violence in our country and the senseless death of young women, musician Lady Zamar has some pointers about how to spot if you’re in a toxic relationship.
In a series of tweets, the muso highlighted the struggles women in such situations must overcome, such as convincing people you’ve been violated. The Collide hitmaker says she is speaking from personal experience.
She says if your partner keeps you a secret, then you better run away from that relationship.
The songstress was in a secret relationship with musician Sjava for two years. They denied it, but later confirmed their relationship when they broke up.
"Yeah we dated from June 2017 and ended things in March 2019... That’s all so y’all can stop with the questions.." she tweeted.
The duo never revealed the details of their breakup. However, recently Lady Zamar has been speaking out about relationships.
"Most women have been sexually harassed, raped and/or sexually violated and yep.. if the perpetrator is too high up in society be it whatever office we usually don’t feel like we can tell anyone for fear that we won’t be believed or that someone will say it’s our fault [sic]," she said.
"When you have a cheating partner chances are they’ll tell you some crap about being private and your relationship being yours and not the worlds.. blah blah blah. Secret relationship or private relationship? If they say don’t tell anyone, my advice? RUN. [sic]"
"Imagine your so called partner tells everyone you’re crazy and you can’t defend yourself coz he’s convinced everyone you that you are insane bonkers, screw loose typa vibes and well people respect him and you’re just that 'privileged' girl that speaks English? [sic]"
"Abused people are closer than you think.. Abusers are usually those you’d never suspect do it.. the ones with 'Good' social standing.. People of influence get away with it easier, but abuse is everywhere. I speak directly from experience.. About 95% of the time I speak from it. [sic]"