‘I want 5 kids,’ says Durban’s DJ Happygirl, expectant mom and rising star behind Bayaphithizela hit

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Happiness Ndlovu famously known as DJ Happygal.
Happiness Ndlovu famously known as DJ Happygal.

Even though she is a celeb, people from where she comes from have a certain respect for pregnancy.

This is why it was only late into her pregnancy that Durban DJ Happiness Ndlovu, popularly known as DJ Happygal, felt ready to announce the news by sharing a picture on her Instagram account of herself flaunting her belly with the caption “Eggspecting”.

She says she didn’t announce herself early because she is a traditional girl and she grew up in a family that treated pregnancy as a sacred thing.

“It is not easy to share your things in your personal life with the whole world. But because you have people who supported your brand, they deserve the truth from your lips. It is not a mistake to be pregnant but a blessing. And people are not fazed by pregnancy because even when people saw me at the malls before I posted, they didn’t even try to leak and expose me but they waited for me to announce.”

The mother of two says she is looking forward to being a new mom again, saying pregnancy is never the same and therefore shouldn’t be treated the same.

Working in showbiz, she has a demanding schedule but she takes it all in her stride as the first person in her family to get a job and help take care of her siblings.

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She comes from a big family and, as the eldest sister she was always hands-on in taking care of her siblings. This experience made her long to also have a big family of her own one day. She's always wanted to have five kids, she tells Drum.

“In the five that I wish for, I would like to have a dramatic, happy girl since I already have two boys,” she says. 

She says adding baby number three to her already busy schedule made her learn to balance her things while she is still pregnant so that when the baby arrives she can cope.

“What is important is balancing your life and having a support structure. I know that I am a mother, entrepreneur, and DJ. So in all, I do I have to make sure that I make my kids happy, spend time with them and be present in my kids' lives. The most important thing is also to inform your kids why you can’t be at home most of the time and the type of work that you are doing so that they can understand. My line of work is busy and sometimes they do not see me for the whole weekend and, when I come back home, I have to sleep and they have to go to school,” she says.

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The Bayaphithizela hitmaker says her two boys now understand that their mother is out there working so that she can provide for them and they sometimes ask her how was work when she comes home. "We need to communicate with our children and be open as entertainers so that they do not feel neglected," she says.

“When I am home I spend time with my kids and we do everything together. I play and cook with them because they enjoy doing things with me. And when I want to rest, they know I will lock myself in my room and rest. I know it is important to give your kids love.”

The DJ says she plans to explore the world when she is 40 and that is why she wants to try for the five kids now so that she can travel in her 40s.

She adds that she wishes more women could be content with what they have planned for their lives.

"Everyone has a plan for their lives and no one should [judge] a woman who has or doesn't have kids.

"We should also, stop shaming people for choosing to have – or not have – kids. We need to respect what women decided to do with their bodies because we all have different plans."

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