Nonku Williams shares four lessons she has learned in her forties

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Real Housewives of Durban star Nonku Williams had a massive celebration for her recent birthday.
Real Housewives of Durban star Nonku Williams had a massive celebration for her recent birthday.

She turned 43 years old on 6 August and celebrated in a soiree in Cape Town with close friends and family.

Real Housewives of Durban star Nonku Williams describes her special day as ‘epic’. 

“My birthday weekend was epic. From the time we arrived on Friday and it was all thanks to Fezile Nzuza from an African female-owned company Xperience Travels Adventures. She helped me to arrange everything," she tells Drum.

“My hashtag was #nonkusglorious40s. We arrived and went shopping at the V&A Waterfront at Louis Vuitton and Gucci. We stayed at Clifton Fourth beach Bungalow and had a private chef.”  

On Saturday Nonku and her friends had a private photoshoot capturing the beauty of Cape Town. 

“I then had a lady come set up décor for a champagne breakfast. From there we went on a yacht for two hours. The pictures don’t do it justice. Everything was stunning. I do not regret the money I paid to celebrate my birthday.” 

On Saturday evening, she had a blast at a club. 

“We finished off the night in style at AyepYep. And I chose to wear white. I had three beautiful outfits," she says. 

“On Sunday I had an AtoB Wine Experience with a couple of media people and celebrities where we did wine tasting."  

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Nonku says that growing older comes with being wiser and less stressed about “the smaller things in life.” 

“It’s come with wisdom and less stress,” she tells Drum.

“In my thirties, I did not know who I was. As the saying goes, life begins at forty. I learned who Nonku was. I know that I don’t need validation from people. I know that I need to live and be the best version of myself.”

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“I decided to date myself,” she says.

“I am not in a relationship with anyone and this is a choice I made some time ago. I decided to be celibate to first learn to love and appreciate myself first before allowing anyone else to love me. I am so comfortable in my own space. I love being alone.” 


“I am also very protective about who I invite into my space. It’s the same with the ladies I invited to my birthday. It's ladies of the same class, people I can be real with. They gifted me with amazing presents,” Nonku says. 

“I have learned to not have expectations of people because they will disappoint but to put my faith in God. So, I protect my space and love those who love and appreciate me."  


“I put family first and this is something I’m teaching [my] kids and [it is] something you learned from your parents.” 


“I also learned not to take everything too seriously. Life is too short, and one needs to enjoy themselves on every occasion. So I celebrate birthdays, graduations, achievements, and all milestones."

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