He thought it would be all cute pictures and fun times. Until the baby came home and suddenly his whole life changed.
Pretoria based dad Bonisile Mgidi (26) welcomed his first child with his partner five months ago and nothing could have prepared him for some of the things he has experienced in his 160 days of fatherhood.
The young dad did what any self-respecting millennial would do and posted a thread on social media about his experiences.
Speaking to Drum after putting baby Mihla to sleep, Bonisile says his partner has a 10-year-old son, so they are not completely clueless about children, but some things did come as a shock.
“Hey, even the way I drive has changed. Now when I get to traffic lights amber means ‘slow down check if the guy behind me realizes I’m about to stop and stop'. A year ago amber meant I should drive faster before it turned red. Also, my parents are not as broke as I thought they are. They are always getting her gifts.
“It is shocking to notice that the colour and texture of another’s human’s poop is so important to me or whether or not they struggled when they were passing that stool,” he chuckles.
He is a business consultant and is able to work from home and take care of the infant while his partner is a lecturer. Baby Mihla recently puked on his last clean shirt and he had a meeting he had to attend physically.
“I have since learnt that it is all good and well to pack an extra outfit for the baby, but you should pack one for yourself too. So moghel now also controls my wardrobe too. We now have a joke here at home that she bonds with me by throwing up on me, because wow!”
He says he has always wanted children and having Mihla as changed his life.
“Things are different when the baby is yours hey. Because when baby cries ulilela wena [she cries for you] because you are the parent and you cannot pass them on to someone else.”
He says they are practical in terms of what they buy for her because babies quickly outgrow them but “friends and family always go for the expensive things".
“Then we dress her in those outfits, take a picture and send it to the person who bought it because we know that the outfit will not fit after three weeks. My favorite baby item though is the carrier I use. It took a couple of YouTube videos to learn how to tie it but once I got the hang of it, it became a fave. Now we can shop and do daily chores with ease. It keeps us close,” he says.