“A man recently told me he had an affair with my late mother” – Sis Dolly answers your questions

Sis Dolly answers your burning questions.
Sis Dolly answers your burning questions.
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Dear Sis Dolly

My mom died six months ago and I was heartbroken. My dad died last year and I have no brothers or sisters, so I felt sad and alone but I was okay.

Then recently a man came to see me and told me that he and my mother had an affair for years and that they loved each other very much. He said she only stayed with my father because of me.

He said he didn’t want anything from me, but he thought I should know. This has made me very angry with my mother and I don’t know how to deal with it.

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Sis Dolly answers

Condolences on the loss of both your parents. No matter what age, it’s never easy for a child to lose a parent, let alone if it’s both of them within a short space of time.

There are things you can’t do anything about and this is one of them. This man gave you information you didn’t need and it won’t help you in any way. He must have some motive for telling you this, but the reason is known only to him. He knows that the one person who can confirm his claim isn’t around.

He seems to be a selfish man who doesn’t consider other people’s feelings, otherwise he would have thought twice about telling you this.

Don’t allow his words to mar the memory of your mother. I suggest you treat this as gossip and take it with a pinch of salt.

Hold on to the good memories you have of your mother and let those carry you through your grief.