Dear Sis Dolly
I dated a girl for almost two years before we decided to go our separate ways. Now she has a new man and all I do is remember what we were like together. I know this is a familiar story but I need to know how I can forget her. Please help!
Sis Dolly answers
It’s not clear who initiated the break-up. If she is the one who broke up with you, then it simply means you weren’t ready and so you’re struggling to let it go. You must remember that when a relationship ends, whether it is done amicably or is forced on you, there will be times you’ll think about the good times you had. Reminiscing is one of the stages of loss and eventually you’ll come to accept that she’s no longer a part of your life. She has moved on and it will also do you good to stop dwelling on the past and to start getting your life back together without her in it. Don’t let good memories prevent you from finding love again and having a fulfilling relationship. You don’t need to forget her – you can hold on to the memories, but take them as something to learn from, not as something that prevents you from moving on.