Dear Sis Dolly
I’m in love with a man who keeps cheating on me. I feel stupid about this and I know I should leave, but I just can’t seem to walk away.
We have been in a relationship for three years and I feel very close to him still, even though his behaviour is wrong.
We talk about it each time and he says he’s sorry and that he loves me – and I believe him. He says he is prepared to go for counselling to try to stop this.
Do you think it will help?
Sis Dolly answers
You clearly love and care for him and that’s why you choose to forgive him time and time again. But is it really worth it?
This man has continued to breach your trust and hurt you, and each time you forgive him for the sake of love.
You say it’s happened multiple times and each time he says it will stop, but it never does. How then are you supposed to trust anything he says?
Counselling may give your relationship some introspection and help him see the pain he causes you. It may also bring things into perspective for you – if this is what you really want to deal with moving forward in love.