“My husband got our neighbour pregnant – what do I do?” Sis Dolly answers your questions

Sis Dolly answers your burning questions.
Sis Dolly answers your burning questions.
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Dear Sis Dolly

I recently found out my husband not only cheated on me with a girl in our neighbourhood, but also has a three-month-old baby with her.

I’ve tried to come to terms with the situation, but I think I’m the only one who is ready to be truthful in the marriage. What should I do?

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Sis Dolly answers

Imagine a piece of white paper that’s clean, neat and crisp. Once it’s crumpled, no matter what process you put it through, it never returns to its original form.

Once trust is broken in any relationship it is difficult to take things back to how they used to be. Your partner was very selfish when he decided to have an affair and it was irresponsible of him not to use protection. It is your choice what happens from here. You need to decide whether you are willing to go on with the marriage and give it another try, or call it quits.

If you decide to give your marriage another chance, you must talk to your husband about what he has done and how he can remedy this situation. You might find it easier to work through your issues and figure out a way forward with the assistance of a marriage counsellor.

If you decide to end the marriage, you should ideally still see a counsellor to ensure you’re both on the same page about why this decision was taken and what will happen moving forward. Call Family Life Centre on 011- 788-4784 to talk to a qualified counsellor.

 

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