I’m 26 and I’ve been dating a guy for four years. I cheat on him because I don’t see us being together forever. I love him but I’m not sure it’s him I want to spend the rest of my life with.
I don’t love the guys I cheat on him with either. I told one of them to find a nice girl and he did and now he’s married.
That made me feel bad because I was jealous. What’s wrong with me? Why do I chase guys away?
Sis Dolly answers
Your behaviour is self-destructive and it might be because you believe you’re not worthy of love. It might be that some underlying trauma has made you lose your self-esteem.
You’ve ended up believing that you’re worthless, that you don’t deserve to be loved and that nobody can really love you for who you are.
What you need to do is find yourself and work on your personal growth. You will need help and I suggest making an appointment with a counsellor, so you can talk about yourself, your fears and dreams for the future.
Contact LifeLine South Africa on 0861-322-322 for more info and to set up a counselling session.
You deserve the best that life can give and it all needs to start from within. Good luck.