Halala! Qondanisa gets married to his second wife on season two of Mnakwethu Happily Ever After

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Will Qondanisa live happily ever after with his two wife on season two of Mnakwethu?
Will Qondanisa live happily ever after with his two wife on season two of Mnakwethu?

The show that divided the nation is back. Mzansi Magic's Mnakwethu had South Africans angry, excited and annoyed every time it hit the screens. Women were not impressed and men were ready to take up the lifestyle. 

Host polygamist Musa Mseleku wasn't spared the backlash, with some saying he was an advocate for cheating and was endorsing it in the name of tradition.

Some felt the show was created to humiliate women since it allowed husbands to write to the producer about their intentions to take a second wife.

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Now, the controversial show is back with season two of Mnakwethu Happily Ever After and it is filled with a lot of twists , turns and viewers will be given the rundown of what happened when cameras went off after the first season.

“Reality TV does not get better than this! While Mnakwethu Happily Ever After is entertainment that viewers can look forward to in the new year, the show is also like a fly on the wall for South Africans who are curious about the cultural processes that unfold when men ask their wives to be part of a polygamous marriage,” Nomsa Philiso, the Director of Local Entertainment Channels at M-Net, says.

“As Mzansi, we are very excited to be showcasing content that not only entertains, but educates, and drives conversations that evoke and not provoke emotions.”

Those who recently watched the first episodes saw some of the changes that had taken place as well as the drama that is yet to unfold. In season one Qondanisa introduced his wife Sithokozile to his girlfriend Samantha  and it became an almost physical screaming match. His wife finally came around and accepted his request to take a second wife.

Samantha couldn’t be happier.

Izinto phakathi kwami no Qondanisa manje sesiright (things between Qondanisa and are great),” Samatha says.

“Ngezi 18 zika December wakhokha ekhaya (On the 18th of December he came home and paid lobola for me)."

The first wife, Sithokozile seemed to be all for it. 

“I am the one who told him to do the right things," says the first wife. “It was long overdue, and he is the one who started this whole thing.”

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Bu she still doesn’t like Samantha nor consider her as a sister wife.

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She says viewers will see for themselves on the show as she tells Qondanisa to go pay lobola. However, she didn’t want to disclose the real reason why she pushed him.

“I don’t really care that he has paid lobola for her. Akubuhlungu ngisho inhliziyo (I am not even heartbroken by it). Angithandani phela nendoda yomuntu mina, ubaba wezingane zami lona, umyeni wami (I am not in love with someone else’s man, Qondisani is the father of my kids, he is my husband. So, I don’t care),” she says.

But there seems to be some contradictions in the new home. The husband says they get along like a house on fire, incoming wife Samantha also says she couldn't have asked for a better sister wife but the first wife is singing a different tune.

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“She is not a threat," Sithokozile says.

Kodwa akengithi nje angikamuzwa umnakwethu (I can’t stand her).”

Kusafana nje ngasekuqaleni ngisengedwa, angikamuzwa nje angimuzwa nje nhlobo, (Things have not changed at all for me, it still feels like I am the only wife, I can’t stand her, I can’t stand her at all.)"

Qondanisa also explains to Drum that it took a lot of convincing for his first wife to come around and accept his request.

Khona azange kube yinto elula. Akusiyo into elula ukuthatha isithembu. (It wasn’t an easy thing. Being a polygamist is not an easy thing).

“And it needs you to be a real man, a strong-willed man if you want to take another wife,” he adds.

He also emphasised the fact that he didn’t take a second wife as a way of trying to embarrass his wife, but only because there was a need.

“But I saw that this was my calling. So, after the first season we spoke as a family and I went to her family as well and I explained to them so they could hear me out."

He can't say for sure if he would take another wife in the future. This is what he has to say about the subject: “You can't measure such things for a man. But all I know is that taking another wife is not only about me but about our shortcomings as a family. If there is a need for a third wife she will come in and if there is a need for a fourth one as well, she will also come in. But I can’t really say now if it will happen or not. But if there is a need, I will definitely take another one.”

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Samantha, who is now a trained traditional healer, tells Drum she is looking forward to getting married.

“Since I am more into the traditional side of things, I will have a traditional wedding because I believe that a white wedding is for white people, it’s their traditional wedding and the same goes for black people, we also have our traditions.”

Her mom also passed away early last year, and she was against her being in a polygamist marriage.

But she's chosen to go against her wishes. 

“One of the things my mom taught me is that in life you must do what makes you happy, and don’t mind what other people have to say."

She took her mom’s teachings literally.

“So, I am taking my mother’s advice, and I am living my life.”

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She says as much as her mom was against their relationship; she strongly believes that if she was still alive she would have eventually come to terms with it.

“As much as she didn’t want isithembu (polygamy), I truly believe that as time went by she was going to learn to know Qondanisa better and learn to love him. Even though she might have not loved him, she was going to learn to tolerate him when she saw how much he makes me happy.”

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