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11 Jan 2010

2 YEARS AND 8 MONTHS
Few of the things my child does: He does not listen to anyone, when you discipline him he is spiteful and or he hit us. He terrorise the dog to the point where she shakes (literally shakes) when she hears him. He breaks all his toys. Nothing keeps him occupied for more than 15 minutes. My mother stays with us –  she is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and I am not far behind (I currently uses anti depressants). We can’ t even plan to go to the store  he just gets totally out of hand. Ten percent of the time he is very sweet and loving. He does not have any trouble sleeping. Is this normal for a two year old or does he need help. No discipline techniques seem to work (time out, ignoring his behaviors, spanking –  nothing helps). The one thing that bothers me the most is the fact that he doesn’ t stop to abuse the dog. Is this an under lying problem. I don’ t think he intentionally hurt her. He picks up the dog constantly, pulling her legs, poking her in the eyes. We are constantly on his case about the dog, isn’ t he suppose to know by now he is hurting her??? Please help.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

This is somewhat beyond the usual kid's behaviour, and a visit to a good local child psychologist for an assessment and planning a clear and firm disciplinary regime, is a good idea.
What can happen is that as one grows increasingly panicked by a child's awful behaviours, one may try all sorts of potentially effective interventions, but as none work instantly, we may give up on each one and move on to another, before they have had the chance to be fully effective
As maria suggests, try also to catch him doing something good, even if it's by accident, and praise and reward that, so he can discover that being good may also be rewarding.
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