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03 Apr 2003

ABUSED BY X HUSBAND
I WAS MARRIED TO HIM 2 YEARS OF HELL IT IS 3 YEARS LATER AND I AM STILL TAKING THE ABUSE. MY FATHER AND BROTHER COMMITED SUISIDE AND HE IS USING IT AGAINST ME. HE STAYS IN MY HOUSE AND WHEN I TELL HIM TO GO HE TREATEND TO TAKE IS LIFE THIS IS FOR REAL THE LAST TIME HE ATTEMTED KILLING HIMSELF WITH TEMMIC IT WAS HORRIFIC TO SEE I DO NOT LOVE HE I FEEL SORRY FOR HIM AND I AM SCARED THAT HE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND I WILL FEEL RESPONSABLE BECAUSE I FEEL RESPOSABLE FOR MY BROTHER AND FATHERS SUISIDE
I CAN NOT GO ON AND I AM VERY VERY SCARED HELP ME PSE
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Riekie,
I am absolutely certain that you are not responsible for the suicides of your father or your brother, nor for the atempts and threats of your ? ex-spouse ? Are you supposed to be divorced ? If so, why on earth is he still living with you ? If he is and was abusive, you need protection rom him. Call POWA or some similar group ( check in the phone book ) that specifically helps abused women, andget their advice and help ; get legal advice ( they could help with this, too ) and make sure he is thrown out of your house ( or, if it's his place, that you find somewhere else and safe to stay ) and that a Court Order is obtained, forbidding him from approaching or harassing you in any way. if he disopbeys that, he goes to jail.
It is HIS responsibility to sort out his life, with whatever help he chooses ; and it is not fair from him to use emotional blackmail to force you to put up with him. He is an adlt and responsible for his own cohices and his own acs. Whatever he does and whatever else happens to him, is his choice and responsibility, and not yours.
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