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09 Oct 2008

Dear SC and folks
Please help me as i have a very very low self asteem , and every man i come in contact with . and get to know wants to have sex with me, its been going on since small, every boyfriend my sister had wanted me during or after the relation ship they had with my sister, up till date i have slept with three of her ex-boyfriends, and today i am in a sexual relationship with her husband, of wich everyone of them all have the same thing to say to me, like the booyfriends all said "  they met the wrong sister"  and now her husband said he married the wrong sister. i grew up with out my biological father being a part of my life, but was raised by my adoptive parents, of wich my sister is my adoptive sister, i know that makes no difference that im a slut, but pls now my other brother in law from my inlaw side , my husband`s sister`s husband wants to sleep with me, and of wich i cant , there is to much at stake , i do care about him though, but not in a way of sleeping with him, but more problem is that im scared he will desert me or hate me, or just the mere fact that we will have a sour relationship. of wich i do go alot to spend time with his wife, so just staying away would me a bit suspicious . ' PLS HELP ME" 
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01 Jan 0001

See a CBT counsellor to work on improving that low self-estem ; it shouldn't take long. SOME men are predators and sense when they've found a girl with low self-esteem that they can take advantage of this. All these guys are exploiting you, and you are allowing it to happen ( you weren't forced into these relationships ) presumably because you feel that it's onyl by giving sex you can get attention and approval. Why on earth do you "care for" such trashy men ? Let them desert you --- that'd be great !
Its no excuse to say that they chase after you --- you don't have to allow yourself to be caught. Ever heard of the policy of "just say no " ? You don't have to become a tramp, and unfaithful to yoru own husband, to get the approval of trashy men. Their disapproval would be something you should accept with pride ; it's their approval you should feel ashamed of
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