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23 Oct 2006

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I need advice. Ok here I go…. This guy has been married before, and we are together for the past 11 years, we are not married but engaged. We share a beautiful little girl of 7 and of course he has children out of the previous marriage. In the beginning I loved with him so much that it turned me blind to his mistakes I never cared. He always went out with “friends” (women) and left me behind to either watch his one child or let me know his going to a work party with someone and leave me be. Ok that’s several years ago, but about 3 to 4 years ago he took a very small problem and made it a major issue, so on the end of the day I moved out I was always fishy of something that is going on but I never said a word cause I didn’t have any concrete evidence of him seeing someone else. Then I decided to go to his house and yes I found another women, in this 2 years I have lived on my own with our daughter he still visited me and left his kids on one occasion before I went to his house and found this women - he had to work … and stupid me looked after them and still believe in him.
Well, obviously I got him, and he talked nice and made promises and this and that, so I gave him another change. I moved back and everything went honki dori, until I discovered a month back Viagra in his work bag and condoms etc. I didn’t raise any questions, well I’m the kind of person that can keep secrets very well and I can keep things hidden inside of myself for many years or months and pretend all is well. I know it’s the wrong way dealing with problems but it’s very easy for me to do this. Well I didn’t confront or asked him about it, by the way I went away that weekend so it was very convenient for him to use the viagra. The other thing that makes me in our relationship is that we don’t have sex often. Maybe once in 2 months or so depends on him… so if he didn’t use the viagra on me who was the lucky person… I don’t even feel its necessary to discuss this, I just thought it would be nice to hear people’s opinions and see what people would do and say.

I believe if you give a person enough rope he will end up hanging himself/herself. Am I crazy or what?

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Boy, you were indeed blinded by love. He expected to go out with woman friends, while you stayed at home as a babysitter for his kids ? And even after you parted, he still expects you to babysit ? is this a relationship, or are you an unpaid servant ? You know he is habitually unfaithful and using you --- do you expect him to change ? WHy would he want to ?
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