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11 Nov 2008

Affair - Do I abort or not?
I have been having an affair for the last 8 months. Now I may be pregnant, but I am not sure whose baby it is (husband or lover).

I cannot leave my husband as he would be devasted. My lover does not want me to have an abortion, he says he will take the baby if it is his.

I cannot do this to my husband and my family, believe it or not I do have a conscience!

I know I have to make a desicion whether to keep the baby or not and whether to tell my husband or not but would appreciate some outside advice.
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01 Jan 0001

You have been so careless and thoughtless.Have neither of you heard of contraception ? We cannot tell you whether or not to have an abortion. That must be and will, be, your own decision. I don't l;ke at all the sound of your lover "taking the baby" ( and one who might well be your husband's child ) --- that's not how one treats a baby --- what would he do with the child ? And would the poor thing grow up without a mother ? Surely a baby's life should not take precedence over your pride --- talk this over with your husband, and decide together. And yes, do have a DNA test done at the right time, so you can all know who the father is.
See a personal counsellor, urgently, to examine all the options and the effects of your various possible decisions
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