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18 Jan 2006

Afraid of accident happening
Recently my husband said that he wants to go sky diving after talking to some work colleague who goes every weekend. This really upset me as I am terrified that something will happen to him, especially as we have a young child. I know they say it is safe when done professionally blah blah… but I don’t trust that as I have read about plenty people dying or being seriously injured from the sport. I told him I wasn’t happy at all about it but he thinks I am just spoiling his fun. I can’t understand how people don’t realize how immortal they are and that life just doesn’t go on forever. It seems that young men are the most reckless in life. I know driving a car and other daily activities are also dangerous but it just doesn’t compare to deliberately putting your life at risk by jumping out of a plane. What is the right thing to say to him? Should he not respect my wishes and give this a miss or am I being unfair and holding him back?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

First could I ask the group as a whole --- whatever happened to our regular pal who was going sky-diving ? Is she OK ? Seems to have been a long silence there.
I think extreme sports are irresponsible in people with children and similar responsibilities. Can he really not think of any other way to have fun ? Living in SA with its high crime rate and useless policing and justice system is dangerous enough to count as an extreme sport --- why undertake avoidable and unnecessary risks ?
Maybe insist that he visit a lawyer with you and draw up his will, detailing what arrangements he has made to provide for you and the child in the event that his hobby proves fatal --- that might help to encourage him to face facts.
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