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23 Jan 2006

Alcoholic Husband
Aaarrrgggghhh!!! I am at the end of my tethers!!
He drinks a 1litre bottle of whiskey per night, and on weekends more, and then adds beer.

I feel he is not a good husband or father in his drunken state every nite, forgets to lock gates, doors, or close windows, cannot be woken by a crying child or the burglar alarm for that matter, stuff like that! And of course he is drinking us into poverty.... Would rather buy a bottle of whiskey than a tin of formula!

He does admit he has a problem, but then every nite just drinks on!
Should I be grateful that this happens at home and not in some pub? I don't wanna press the matter too much, because I'm scared he will resort to rather drinking in pubs....

He is not physically abusive, but emotionally I am breaking down, as he gets phylosophical when he's drunk, and then gets angry that I don't wanna talk to him, or make love to him...

I feel there is no sollution to this problem - how can you help someone that does not wanna be helped?

So what now?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Does he genuinely admit that he has a problem ? Or simply say it to quieten you ? If he admits that he has a probl;em, why doesn't he see a shrink and join AA and tackle the problem ? As Ann says, call Al-Anon which specially helps the families of alcoholics.
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