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04 Jun 2004

All communication cut off
I met a wonderful man, through Speed Dating, in February 2004 and he was really keen for us to be in an exclusive relationship. I have been going through some tough times, i.e. my Mom has incurable cancer and I've been taking care of her. He was very understanding and said that if I needed anything, he'd be there for me, anytime. We discussed openly everything about our relationship and we both were in agreement that although the relationship was moving rather fast, we were both comfortable with it.

About 6 weeks ago he said that he needed some time to think about his life, that and the fact that he cannot handle the pressure he's under at work. His exact words were, "The intensity level of our relationship is starting to interfere with the way in which he performs at work". What on earth is that? In turn, I gave him his space and things went well for one week. It has now been 4 weeks exactly that have passed and I have not heard a single word from him. If I call on his cell phone, he will not answer. He does not respond to sms or email, I have not come across as a "desperate" woman and have therefore limited my sms and email to one per week only.

We have been intimate, so surely if something was wrong, he should tell me about it. I just cannot understand that such a long period of time can pass, and he does not make any form of contact with me at all. If the relationship is over, I would like him to have the decency to actually tell me, then I can move on with my life with a clear conscience. I'm tired of "wondering" if he's going to make contact with me again. Do I just forget about him, write him off? Any suggestions please?
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Lioness,
Of course we cannot really guess what is going on with him --- only communicating with him can provide such information. Maybe, just as you can be justifiably and nobly preoccupied with caring for your mother, he might be preoccupied with some problems in his work life. But I agree that he at least owes you some response to indicate what is happening with him. I suspect that in Speed Dating, the relationships that get set up may often end up in Speed Parting, too.
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