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16 Oct 2006

Am I being stupid
I'm the type of person who likes buying people things, my family, friends and especially my boyfriend. He never asks me for anything but if I walk into the shop and see something i will get it for him. The one time he did ask me to buy him a pair of shoes and the agreement was that he would buy me something in return. For his birthday I bought him a watch. My problem is this and i dont know if im being stupid. He has never bought me anything. For my birthday he bought me a box of chocolates, i know that its the thought that counts but the gifts i bought must run into thousands of rands. When I was pregnant he told me that he would buy me a complete new wardrobe when I'm comfortable that I've lost enough weight. 5 Months later I asked him to buy me a pair of jeans and he told me that I must wait. When I asked why I always have to wait he told me that it has to come from his heart and I mustn't nag him for it. This really hurts me and when I tell him this he tells me that if I push him I will not see anything. I'm always asking for things he tells me that he doesnt have money but whenever I go to his house I see that he has bought new things, the latest addition was a fancy new leather lounge suit. Surely he can at least get me something that i can appreciate. How do I handle this situation without sounding as if I'm nagging. I even approached it differently where I told him that I'm looking untidy and that I'm sure that he doesnt want to be with someone that doesnt look after herself. I need advise please.
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01 Jan 0001

You seem to feel that you have to buy his love, and similarly with others --- thousands of rands is FAR too much to spend on a bf or gf. And its sinister that he promises major gifts for you but doesn't ever come up with them If it "came from his heart" he'd get things he knows you wants, not keep on making excuses. Sounds like he's using you
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