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25 Jan 2006

Am i just paranoid?
i know i'm probably jumpin to conclusions. read someone elses post about how her husband does a few things.. and she thinks he's having an affair.
well my husband also works late hours especially recently. he's never uhm in the mood. we fight a lot and he seems to want to fight and not make up which is unusual for him, he gets spiteful in fights and the latest was something extremely small and stupid. i reached out all passionately to kiss him - cos he always goes on about how he doesn't want to fight. he pushed me away and said that was "scary and he doesn't understand what's happening.." and later when i told him he needs to make up his mind about what he wants.. he said he's sorry.
we have been married two years and in the last year we've made love about 6 times.
its like i'm just with some roomie.. and we just share a bed..
i know its dumb and might sound pathetic. but its probably true: i'm unattractive to him.. there's nothing left and we don't even get along.. and i keep wondering if there might be someone else in his life that makes him too tired to be with me. even romantically.
i don't want to spend our lives with me making all the effort and feeling alone.. i've become desperate for company and talk to everyone and anyone, it feels so good to just talk to people. my husband actually said he doesn't want to talk.. he said i talk too much and many other things and when i say we should separate if he has so many problems with me he says he can't be without me. i can't stand all of this. i wish i knew what to believe.
sometimes i wonder if he's gay. or just having an affair. or simply disinterested with what he has, me. or an idiot who likes to sleep and when asked what he would like from his life answers : to sleep.
i resent him now.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, nox, sine guys actually DO work late, and stress and overwork may make them much less interested in sex.t happens. But 6 times in the first 2 years of marriage sounds like he may have a low libido to start with, or other problems. Why not get the pair of you involved in marriage counselling, and see what you canachieve together ? That doesn't sound like a guy who'd have the enegy to have an affair.
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