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14 Jul 2011

AM I SELFISH
HI DOC
IM DATING A DIVORCEE AND WE HAVE BEEN IN A REALTIONSHIP FOR 3 MONTHS NOW, EVERYTHING IS FINE EXPECT THE FACT HE CHATS TO HIS WIFE ON BLACKBERRY MESSENGER SHE SUGGESTED HE TAKE HER OFF BUT TELLS ME HE WANTS HER ON INCASE THERE IS AN EMERGENCY ABOUT THE KIDS, YESTERDAY I TOLD HIM I FEEL IT IS BOTHERING ME TOO MUCH CAN HE DELETE HER HE TOLD ME IM IRRATIONAL AND POSSESSIVE ! AM I WRONG ?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If he still feels the ned to CHAT to his ex, then she isn't Ex enough for him to have an honest relationship with any other woman. Of course they need to be ablem to contact each other if there are SERIOUS problems involving their children, but that doesn't require social chats.
So there's no need for him to delete her contact details ( though they COULD of course contact each other by simple phone calls ! ) - demanding that is excessive - surely the isue is, rather, how often he contacts her, and what tsuch contacts are about.
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