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30 Jan 2006

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Hi all

Im still new on this forum it looks like u can help me with my problem. I have a boyfriend who keeps asking me to buy him airtime when its towards my month end. Last couple of months he called me on the 25 and he said he is asking for a R29 airtime. I bought him without any hassles fine, in November he got a contract phone and he spent that amount and he recharged and towards month end he calls me and told me that i should buy him airtime and i asked him what did u do with that money and he said i was calling u everyday. I told him that i cannot buy him airtime while he is using a contract phone mind u this guy is also working and he is earning more that i do.

Last month he did the same thing and i didnt say anything and this month he did the same thing and i did bought him and i sent him an sms telling him that im not obliged to buy him airtime if i want to buy him it will be from my own will not him reminding me and he said its because he calls me everyday and i told him that i usually spend 2 weeks without airtime and he told me that he cannot sleep without talking to me. I told him that but we do speak during the day until knock off time and if u cannot sleep without talking to me he should minimise his calls so that they can last upto nearly month end. He was angry with me for telling him how i feel.

I never asked for airtime from him and he will be the one buying me the R12 one. I told him that if i dont have airtime i accept that and move one. I told him that just because he is so insecure he wont go a day without airtime just because he wants to keep track on my moves and he was very angry.

So tell me I was i wrong to tell him how i feel or what? Am i entitled to buy him airtime so that he can talk to me? Please help this guy is giving me stress. It is a distance relationship.

Please help me please!!

Thanks
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

he doesn't need any airtime at all, and if he does, it is solely HIS responsibility to buy it and pay for it. he is earning more than enough to buy whatever he wants. Are you supposed to pay for the pelasure of having him call you ? He's effectively expecting you to pay rent for the dubious pleasure of his company. Don't you need to move on, and look for a real man, who can pay for himself and doesn't feel he needs to sponge off his gf all the time ?
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