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26 Aug 2011

AT MY WITS END
Hi DOC
I have recently become involved with a divorced man with 2 children, his ex is constantly harrases him either by phone or by black berry messenger, she tells him she wishes he would die and he doesnt even get upset just takes in his stride, i told him to delete her off his messenger and if she wants to get hold of him she can phone him or text him, he hasnt done anything yet. He met her for lunch the othe day he told he me he was somewhere else she phoned me and told me, when i confronted him he said he did have lunch with her but didnt want to upset me, i feel i cant trust him, we hav spoken about it but i find in doubing his every move... he tells me me he doesnt love her she tells me he does but he is confused : (
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

His ex sounds like a horrible and vengeful person, and I'm surprised he hasn;'t changed his cell-number fod BBM contact details, except for one number on which they could communicated about the children when necessary. If she wishes him dead, one wonders why h would choose to lunch with her, or her with him.
Indeed he sounds confused, and more - but very clearly he is still too emotionally and otherwise involved with her, and not honestly available for a sincere and promising relationship with anyone else. And, indeed, how and why does she have your number, and why does he need to phone you ?
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